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Our hope is that you know that we are here to help you through this very difficult time. We hope that the following information will answer some of the questions you might have while you make the difficult decision to parent or make an adoption plan for your child. We offer counseling to help birth mothers (and birth fathers, too) with an unplanned pregnancy. Our purpose is to help you in making a positive, thorough plan for you and your baby. We are here to support you. Through counseling, we can assist you in understanding your options as well as helping you take good care of yourself during your pregnancy. Since these questions are as personal and unique as you, we'll be more than happy to help you find your own answers. Remember, the decision is yours!
A: Counseling is a supportive service designed to meet your individual needs. You are welcome to involve a family member or the birth father in counseling. This is a time to share your fears, pressures, questions and concerns about your pregnancy. You will meet with your caseworker on a regular basis – usually once a week or once every two weeks – dependent on your needs. The focus of counseling is always related to your pregnancy, but ranges from concrete factual information to the more abstract, like your personal feelings and your relationships with your family, friends and the birth father.
Because you must live a lifetime with your decision, you want to make sure your choice is the right one for you. Counseling can help you explore and clarify your values, beliefs, goals and desires, to help you decide:
We can help you navigate issues like the following:
It's very normal for your decision to vary at different times in your pregnancy, and your caseworker will encourage you to share those feelings as they change. Some birthparents experience this confusion prior to delivery, after delivery or both. Making a permanent plan for you and your child is important work; it takes a lot of soul-searching and we're here to help you through it.
A: Creative Adoptions' staff will continue to provide ongoing services as long as you wish. We will also help you find outside services, if you desire.
A: Creative Adoptions is an open adoption agency; however, you and your caseworker will explore and create an adoption plan that best fits your needs.
A: Yes. At Creative Adoptions, we believe that you are entitled to help plan for your child's future – we believe in open adoption. This means that in most cases, YOU design the adoption plan for your child. At Creative Adoptions you can:
We have many examples of adoption triad relationships that work, and we will help you decide how much and what kind of involvement you would like to have with your child and the adoptive family.
A: Our adoptive families are carefully screened and educated about open adoption as a way to build their family. The screening process includes a thoroughSAFE Home Study, open adoption education and a medical evaluation. In the education process, adoptive parents will hear from former birth mothers about their adoption experience. They also experience first hand the pain involved for the birth parent(s) in planning an adoption. Adoptive families learn how important and helpful it is for their adoptive children to have open access to information about their birthparents. Through this process, adoptive parents come to a deeper understanding of the mutual love and concern both they and the birth parents have for their children.
If you think adoption is right for you, your caseworker will ask you to complete the necessary paperwork describing yourself, what your family is like, your health history and your reasons for planning an adoption. This information will eventually be shared with your adoptive family and your child. The next step will be for you to view profiles written by prospective adoptive families (usually you'll view three or four) along with accompanying pictures. These letters will tell you about the history of the couple (how old they are, where they work, what they like to do in their free time), as well as how they feel about adoption, raising children, and how they feel about you. It is common for birthmothers to make a first and second choice after reading the letters. If both you and the family would like to get to know each other better, an initial meeting is arranged.
The initial meeting includes you, the potential adoptive parents and your caseworker. It can include others if that would be helpful to you. It is an opportunity for you and the potential adoptive couple to get to know each other. Feel free to ask any questions you may have. The adoptive couple will probably have some questions for you, too. Everyone is usually nervous at first, but that feeling quickly subsides. We will be there to support you.
After the meeting, both you and the adoptive couple will take some time to decide whether you'd like to continue with a relationship, and what kind of relationship you'd like to have prior to the birth of the baby. Since you are developing a life-long relationship, it's very important that everyone feel comfortable with each other. If you don't feel comfortable with your first choice couple; if for any reason the couple doesn't seem right to you, just tell us and you can go to another choice.
A: Absolutely. We believe our adoption program is in the best interest of all those involved in the adoption process. You can choose the family that you feel the most comfortable with. You will know and feel positive about the type of home and life they will provide for your child. Your child will be able to have his or her questions answered; questions about who you are and why you planned an adoption. Because the adoptive parents know you personally, they will be able to more accurately answer their child's questions. Adoptive parents also feel a special or extra sense of responsibility knowing you chose them to raise your child. It's important to remember that this is YOUR adoption plan. You and the adoptive family can work out the relationship that feels best for you. There isn't a right amount of contact or a right way to do this. The goal is to find the relationship that best meets your needs, those of the adoptive family, and most importantly, your child.
A: No. However, when adoption is being considered, the birth father has legal rights as well as the birth mother. These include:
We try to involve the birth father in counseling either individually or with you. The birth father must agree in writing for an adoption to occur. Sometimes the following circumstances make this impossible:
A: The court is aware of these special circumstances and has various processes to handle them. We can help you with your individual circumstances related to the birth father's legal rights. Should you decide to place your child, we will prepare all the necessary legal documents for relinquishment.
A: Women plan an adoption until they experience the delivery of their baby and then they choose to parent. Prior to delivery, you will explore in counseling the emotions that you might experience while in the hospital. We will be there to help you decide what is best for you and your baby.
A: Yes. Some birth parents worry about how they will afford prenatal and delivery costs if they are not covered by insurance or Medicaid. We will assist you in finding affordable, quality medical care. If no other options are available, our agency has available funding to cover normal prenatal and delivery expenses.
A: Creative Adoptions will assist you in finding quality medical care.
A: After you deliver, we will visit you in the hospital to provide support.
One of three options is available after you deliver:
A: The hospital experience is an emotional time for all birth mothers as they give birth and see their baby for the first time. We know how difficult this may be for you and will be supportive without being intrusive. This is also a time when people close to you may experience intense emotions about your plan for the baby. We will be there to help all of you in making a thoughtful plan for you and your child.
During the counseling process and at the meetings with the adoptive family, your caseworker will help you decide how much contact you want between you, your family, your baby and your potential adoptive family. For example, in the hospital you may (but are not required to):
There is no right way to go through the hospital experience. Each amount of contact with your baby is YOUR individual preference and your wishes will be respected by everyone involved. You can request that the adoptive parents be in the delivery room and/or perhaps just the adoptive mother. You can request that the adoptive couple be a part of the hospital experience or vice versa.
A: Once you have chosen a prospective adoptive family, you and your caseworker will have an opportunity to discuss the specific details of your adoption plan. These may include what you'd like your relationship to be during your hospital stay and following placement in the adoptive family's home. You will also discuss whether or not you will consider placing your child with the family directly from the hospital, if you would like to place the baby in Cradle Care or make an alternative arrangement that will meet your needs. Once again, we will be there to support you. You, the adoptive couple, and your caseworker will work together to make arrangements that feel comfortable for all of you.
A: Cradle Care is a loving, caring family who will take care of your baby while final decisions are being made about the adoption.
A: You are free to visit your child in Cradle Care. These visits will take place at the agency or in the Cradle Care home and can be arranged through your caseworker or the Cradle Care provider. Our Cradle Care families will be happy to meet with you and explain how your child is doing.
A: The delivery/hospital experience is the culmination of many different emotions. Sometimes birthmothers feel sad, even those that are parenting. You may have heard this referred to as the baby blues or post-partum depression. Don't be surprised if you find this to be difficult. It is normal to experience grief; some birth mothers planning an adoption say they feel sadness or a sense of loss in waves for up to a year. Others are more affected by the baby's birthday, special holidays, etc. Remember that each birth parent experiences grief in a different way. During this time friends and family who are sensitive to your feelings and experience can be very helpful.
A:Colorado State Law requires that birthparents voluntarily relinquish their parental rights. Birth mothers appear in a private, closed hearing before a court judge or magistrate. This hearing usually lasts 10 to 15 minutes. The reason you have to relinquish in court is to protect your legal rights, those of your child, and to make sure this is a voluntary decision on your part.
After you deliver, if you continue to feel comfortable with your plan to relinquish, a court date will be set, usually four to six weeks later. Your caseworker will prepare you for court and go with you that day. The judge will ask questions such as:
The judge will also ask your caseworker her impressions of your counseling sessions and your plans for adoption. Your relinquishment of parental rights is not final until you have appeared in court, and the judge has signed the Final Orders of Relinquishment. Therefore, if you need more time, just let your caseworker know.